When you meet your ex's new girlfriend is an experience most of go through and all of us dread. I recently went back to Portsmouth to visit some friends and as I'm on pretty good terms with my ex (i'll no doubt divulge more info on this in another blog), this meant seeing him too, what I wasn't prepared for was meeting his new girlfriend.
To say I was little nervous would be an understatement of gross proportions. I didn't know what to expect; would we get on or not, what if I don't like her and the big one....what if they start making out in front of me?! But alas none of that happened, well they did kiss but that's about it, we got on really well, turns out we have a similar sense of humour. Was it strange seeing him kiss someone else of course, but the worst part for me is knowing that even as his best friend, when things kick off or go wrong he wont turn to me anymore but its a case of either get used to it or let it effect everyone so what can I do?
My 3 top tips for surviving the meet the new girlfriend moment
1 - smile, regardless how your feeling don't stop smiling, even if she is a total Bitch
2 - if you can avoid being caught alone, especially with her you'll no doubt have to endure the patronizing, I'm the new girlfriend but he still cares about you speech
And
3 - if you can arrange to meet her in a group setting that way any awkwardness can be covered by the group, same goes for awkward silences.
Oh and no matter what she says/does etc just remember you were there first and no matter what you probably will never want to go back, if you do well that's a blog for another time :)
Hugs and kisses XOXO
Lisa
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